I loved this book! It included a lot of research, resources, and activities to help families. It is highly reviewed on Amazon and I would encourage adoptive parents to read it.
Considering I have a counseling degree and teach child development courses non-stop, I have had a false sense of confidence in approaching adoption/attachment issues.
There is a significant difference between knowing the facts and theories and living it out
This brings me to my knees.
I was encouraged by this quote from the book.
‘The most comforting words for any adopted person are “I am here.” These words are the comforting oil for our deep-seated fear of rejection and abandonment. When a parent says to his adopted child, “I know you are hurting. I’m here with you. I won’t leave you,” he applies the healing oil of comfort.”
I think these words are good advice for many relationships. We all have the desire to be heard, understood, and accepted.
Parenting is messy business. Children do not arrive with instruction manuals. I am not going to have all the answers, but I can do my best to be present and available.
I am also reminded that I do not parent alone. My heavenly father has already applied these healing words of comfort.
Don’t be afraid, for I am here with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand. Isaiah 41:10